Outfits and Accessories
Outfits are some of the biggest impact elements getting to any headspace and can make or break an entire day of fun. While I’m excited to get out on the beach and get my tan on, there’s one thing I could definitely do without: heat! With my footie pajamas and kigus tucked away in the back of my closet, it’s time to bring out something a little less insulating and a little more breathable. Shortalls, skirtalls, skirts, and onesies are four great pieces of gear that are sure to keep me feeling cool while I enjoy my well-earned nap on the beach (building sandcastles is hard work, okay?).
For kiddos new to the scene, Shortalls are overalls….but the legs are shorts instead of full-length pants! It’s the ultimate statement of comfort and big kid all in one! There’s just something special feeling about pulling those straps over your shoulder and feeling them click into place around the buttons on the bib to hold up your outfit. Gone are the days of worrying if your pants (why are you wearing pants?) are going to fall down or if your clothes will stay where you put them - you can just focus on play and fun! Shortalls are great for kiddos who like to have a feeling similar to a bodysuit/onesies with the benefits of playing outside and getting fresh air in very breathable clothes. In the ABDL world, you can find shortalls with snaps in the crotch, making sure your grown-up has easy access to your diapers for changes, checks, or any other needs! You can find these at Tykables, Baby Pants, Amazon, and more!
Skirts & Skirtalls
Skirtalls are the traditional version of shortalls for girls, but in today’s modern era I say they’re for EVERYONE! Yes, even you in the back with the beard and mustache! If shortalls are too restrictive for you and don’t breathe enough, skirtalls might be for you! Skirtalls take the shortalls concept, remove the legs, and replace it with a skirt! Not only does it allow for even easier diaper checks and peeks, but you also can feel the air on your legs much easier and feel even freer without worrying about how your clothes fit!
Skirts, meanwhile, allow the same breathability as skirtalls, but without the bib on top. (Not food bib! A bib is where you connect the shoulder straps to the buttons to keep overalls/skirtalls up!) You can pair them with any number of lovely shirts or tank tops and create the ultimate outfit! Skirts come in various forms - pencil, short/skater, and mini are common. For the more classic “cheerleader look” you can also look for a pleated skirt. If you are in the market for skirts, you can find them at various stores like HotTopic and Torrid, which use wildly varying size charts for women’s clothing. But if you wanna save time and hit the beach faster (I do!) then PretendAgain has a great set of skirts (with normal sizing types) that fit most kiddos out there!
No matter if you choose a skirt or skirtall, you can look forward to great views, great fun, great flexibility, and ultimate comfort!
A bodysuit, often called “onesie” on a big kid. Did you know the term “onesies” is owned by Gerber? It’s true! We hear from the grown-ups that lawyers are the scariest kind of strangers, so we want to be sure not to talk to THOSE strangers. When we say “bodysuit” in the ABDL world what you think of as a snap-crotch onesie is often what we are referring to. These are the most common (and well-loved) piece of ABDL clothing you’ll see out there! Imagine a shirt, where it keeps going and wraps around your bottom and front, snapping together with buttons between your legs, creating a safe and secure support around your diaper to keep it from drooping and falling off! Grown-ups love these because they keep their kiddos safely padded while playing but you’ll love it because oftentimes you’ll actually NEED the help of your grown-up to unsnap your bodysuit, and that will create MAJOR feels in your head! Haven’t tried one? You should - it’ll change your life (and pants)!
Wait, aren’t “onesies” also footed pajamas? Well…it’s complicated. In some parts of the world, the term can mean that, but in North America it refers to bodysuits. Now you know for your next trivia contest!
I love padding up as much as I can, and while I love the warm summer weather too, these two things just don’t mix. As they say, comfort is king. In addition to wearing appropriate clothes, an appropriate diaper does wonders for comfortability when I know I’ll be outside for a while. Stay hydrated and change often and you should be good to go!
While it seems like most ageplayers out there seem to prefer the tell-tale crinkle of plastic-backed diapers, they come with one downfall when it gets hot: breathability. By its nature, plastic holds moisture in, which can create the worst condition known to babykind: swamp butt! (I heard you in the back start screaming!) Swamp butt is made even worse in more humid areas, like Florida, and can stop many big kids from staying diapered (also increasing the flood risk to the area).
So what do you do? I prefer thin, cloth-backed disposable diapers in hotter temperatures as they are much more breathable. While less common, a cloth-backed diaper often is more breathable, thinner, and suited for warmer and more humid areas. You can find at least these kinds of diapers at most major diaper stores. Grown-ups! Be sure you are checking your kiddos more often in these diapers, as they are often thinner and have lower capacity, leading to more leaks if you don’t stay on top of it.
Chafing occurs when something rubs on the skin for an extended amount of time and extended chafing leads to the dreaded blisters you often can see when on a hike. But chafing also occurs with diapers! Ever gone for a long walk or attended a convention and found your legs becoming raw and sore from rubbing against your diaper? That’s chafing and I can tell you from experience that it HURTS and will yank you right out of the headspace you’ve been working to build, which is just no fun for anyone.
To beat chafing there are a variety of things you can try! First, make sure to keep your skin washed and cleaned regularly to prevent the build-up of oils and baddies that can be pressed into your skin and cause friction/rubbing. Typically, my daily bathtime with my grown-up takes care of this. After that, be sure your skin is nice and dry, then apply either some baby powder or lotion to your thighs. Can you apply both? Yes, but not just in any order - rub the lotion in and then sprinkle the powder gently on top. Don’t rub the powder in because you’ll create a messy paste that gets everywhere, doesn’t protect your legs, and is generally a pain in the bum!
A word of warning to all you kiddos out there who are holding the powder and lotion in your paws - some diapers are made in such a way that the prints may come off and onto your skin or clothing when exposed to lotion! Eeek! Be sure to check your preferred diaper site or ask their customer service if you are unsure if your diapers are compatible with lotion on your legs. If you wanna be extra sure, just use powder, since this isn’t known to cause issues.
Of course, all the clothes, changes, and outfits out there won’t do you a lick of good without an activity to pair with them, so here are some hand-picked funtimes for you to waddle at!
Bring your swimsuit, towels, beach umbrella, and of course a sand bucket with shovel and enjoy a day at the beach! Alternatively, a day at a pool or waterpark can also be a fun cool-off playdate (plus no chance for icky sand to end up in your diaper!). Don’t have any of those? Find a private area (consent matters, kiddos) near a lake or backyard pool, tell a grown-up what you’re up to, and have fun! With just a couple toys and your imagination, you can go on all kinds of fun adventures without even leaving your play spot! The sun is good for you, the play is good for you, and…wait, what were we talking about? I wanna go play toys and not talk with grown-ups! Oh right, you wanna know other things you can do to get to your happy place….
Check out this shopping list: Peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, juice boxes, and as many watermelons as you can carry. Tasty, right? Find a nice shady spot at the park, beach, or even your backyard! Picnics are a great way to relax outside with some of your favorite little snacks. Bring along plenty of finger foods like Goldfish or Teddy Grahams, a variety of fruits, and your favorite sandwich or salad, and hang out in the grass with some friends. Your grown-up may also put some of those (ugh) vegetables in your snacks, which you should eat first so you don’t have to worry about being told to eat them later! (Life hack? We say yes!)
It isn’t all just food, though - you gotta make sure you have a nice picnic blanket (which you can put other blankets on top of) to relax on! A grown-up can make sure you pick a nice spot without too many bugs, water spots, strangers, or monsters so you can play safely while they keep an eye on you and your friends. If you get extra lucky, too, you might be able to engage in….
Back Yard Camping!
Get away from it all without actually going anywhere! Sure you won’t get the peace and quiet of a trip into the wilderness but you also won’t be able to hear the ice cream truck either, so it kind of evens out (one Powerpuff ice cream bar, please!). Grab a couple of sleeping bags, some s’mores ingredients, and a tent for an adventure in the comfort of your own backyard. If you have a trampoline maybe try setting up a trampoline blanket fort! Watch the weather though, no one likes a soggy blanket.
Back yard camping with friends is one of the most fun (and cheap!) things you can do, and in the world of today, it’s also fairly safe! You’ll never walk out of a night staying up telling secrets with your friends while sogging it up and feel like you didn’t have fun. If anything you’ll feel like you did way back when your friends in the neighborhood stayed over, except it’ll be all new again!
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These are just a small sampling of ideas for how you can create your own safe places to head out to (head)space and play! We hope you give some of these a try this summer (or anytime) and come up with even more ideas for how you can get to your happy place! If you get any great ideas you want to share, be sure to hit us up on our Twitter, Instagram, or Facebook! Tell us why it’s such a special activity for you and how it’s made you get your kiddo feels on!